Swiping Solo: Why Dating Online Alone Feeds Loneliness—And How Vetted Changes the Game

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If you’ve ever felt burned out, second-guessed your matches, or wondered if online dating is just… off, you’re not alone. Dating apps have made it easier to meet people—but harder to feel supported. Behind every swipe is a decision made alone. No feedback. No second opinion. Just pressure and more loneliness.

At Vetted, we believe dating shouldn’t feel so isolating. And we’re building a new kind of dating app—one that brings your trusted people into the process. Because finding love shouldn’t be a solo mission. My humble guess is that embarking on virtual dating alone is a combination of shame, fear of rejection, lack of support and taboo beliefs that dating apps are for “singles that have no game.”

1. The Illusion of Connection
Dating apps give the impression of unlimited options. But scrolling through profiles in isolation often leads to surface-level interactions that don’t go anywhere. We’re more “connected” than ever, yet loneliness is at an all-time high. According to the U.S. Surgeon General’s Advisory on the Healing Effects of Social Connection and Community (2023), one in two adults experience loneliness, which contribute to several health risks! When dating becomes a digital guessing game, it’s easy to feel more distant than before.

2. Decision Fatigue Is Real
Should you swipe right? What did they really mean in that message? Are they a good fit—or are you settling? Dating alone means carrying the full emotional load. And over time, it’s exhausting. That kind of pressure isn’t just tiring—it can make people settle, overthink, or give up altogether. This level of mind-reading and guessing can further scramble a person’s self-esteem and self-confidence, which are two very important ingredients in the dating game.

3. You’re Not Meant to Do This Alone
In most other areas of life—career choices, major purchases, big life moves—we ask for input. So why do we isolate ourselves when it comes to love? Friends and family can often see red flags we miss, or help us recognize great qualities we overlook. But traditional dating apps cut them out of the process entirely. Vetted changes the game entirely.

4. What Makes Vetted Different
Vetted was built for people who are tired of dating alone. Our platform invites a select panel of people you really trust and that love you to weigh in on your matches—giving you feedback, encouragement, and support as you navigate new connections. You still make the final call, but now you’re not guessing in a vacuum. You’re dating with your people by your side. And the truth is, most dating app users eventually recruit friends, besties, and family in checking out their latest match who looks really good, but has some warning signs as well.

5. Want to Be Part of Something Better?
We’re currently inviting early users to test Vetted and help shape a dating experience that’s safer, more intentional, and actually backed by the people who care about you most. If you’re ready to date seriously—with real support—join us. What do you have to lose, except missing out on finding that quality match that will lead to a formidable and satisfying relationship?

✅ Become a Vetted Test User
Be among the first to try Vetted and help us build a dating app that actually works—with you, not just for you.

Swiping Solo: Why Dating Online Alone Feeds Loneliness—And How Vetted Changes the Game

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